From my head to my heart

For me, life was primarily about logic and reason. I went to Henriette because I wanted more room for feeling and experiencing. I found her text and photo reassuring so then I took the first step to contact her. This was an interesting challenge, for I did not really have a complete picture of what the sessions would imply. In all my visits, her guidance was very good. Both the verbal part and the treatments itself were always helpful and pleasant. I have the impression, and I am not alone in this, that there is more space for feelings in me now and that I integrate these better in my life. I have recommended Henriette several times already and hope and wish, for me and for others, that she will continue this work for many years to come.

Male, 56

Better than anti-depressants!

I turned to Henriette because I had become gloomy and was worrying a lot since my retirement. My wife and I hardly touch each other anymore and Henriette woke me up about how important that part of life is. She gave me the courage to bring this subject to the table again and also to take better care of myself and allow myself more in this area. Very cautiously, things are starting to move again for me and my wife as well. One session with Henriette is better than a whole year of taking anti-depressants!

Male, 68

I fancy him again!

When I started taking bodywork sessions with Henriette, intercourse had been painful for me for many years. Whenever my husband took initiative, I took care to avoid him because I would be afraid to go all the way and feel like a failure as a woman. I didn’t want to feel like that and my body would tense up. Sometimes I gave in because I didn’t want to lose him either. It was actually a horrible time of playing a kind of hide and seek. Eventually I reached out for help and through a friend of mine I found Henriette. Already towards the end of the first session, for the first time in my life I felt a huge YES towards intimacy and sex. I remember saying to Henriette: “Okay, now I feel like making love with my husband again!”

Female, 43

My best birthday gift ever

The session with Henriette was the best birthday gift I could ever have wished for. Never have I been touched in such an intimate way – I was little girl and space traveler at the same time. It felt so special to meet and be so close with another woman. It has made me a lot more relaxed with women in general.

Female, 28

My whole body is a palace for pleasure

I came to Henriette for bodywork because I missed being touched. I had read about Kashmir massage on internet and this led me to her website. I had a good feeling about it because it came across as serious and professional. After all, revealing your body is a vulnerable thing to do. I made an appointment and that was the start of a whole path of change, in how I experience myself. A lot of pain and sorrow came up and was replaced by pleasure. We went through quite a process in which I was able to leave behind a lot of shame. I feel much more free now. I feel my power again, I feel I’m alive. Now I know that my whole body is palace for pleasure.

Male, 51

Accepting my impotence

I went to Henriette because I had heard from a friend that she is a good bodyworker and supports people who have issues around sexuality. After my prostrate operation I had completely written off myself as a lover and this made me depressed. She helped me to regain my self-esteem and my self-confidence as a lover. I have turned around my way of thinking about sex and the meaning of physical touch. I was able to discuss things with my wife and she has accompanied me to Henriette once. We now touch each other again and enjoy each other’s bodies and the sexual energy between us. My wife had missed it too and after two years of misery we have reconnected again. Without Henriette’s guidance I would never have succeeded in this.

Male, 63

Pain and sorrow in my love life

In our conversations, I really felt acknowledged for my pain and sorrow in my love life. My relationship had ended and I felt so fearful about starting a new one that I reached out for help. I suffered from a kind of fear of failure in love. I felt that Henriette was able to deal with this without wanting to save me. That helped me to open up more. She listened and reassured me. She was also curious about things and was able to get through to the core of my pain and the desires beneath it. She stimulated me to take steps in that direction. I now take much better care of myself and it hasn’t taken much time at all.

Male, 46

A broader view of love and sex

My view of love and sex has really widened, which is very liberating. Together with my boyfriend we went to see Henriette six times. We had gotten stuck in our relationship and were blaming each other. I withdrew in myself which made him insecure. The sex between us had disappeared as well. Henriette set us both to work, each with our own issues, and from this place of empowerment we have learnt to see each other with new eyes. I now know that I am responsible for my own fulfillment and that it doesn’t work to wait for the other.

Female, 35

From guilt to freedom

Sexually nothing was going on for years because my wife doesn’t want to any more. I love my wife deeply and we are great soulmates. We went to see two different sexologists but the conclusion was that if she didn’t want it any more, I would have to accept it. Still, I missed it. I felt a lot of unrest and sometimes even panic, as if I wasn’t able to release my tension. I wasn’t sleeping well and at some point it got so bad that I even went to see an SM mistress. A very special experience but not what I was really looking for. It also costed a lot of money which made me feel even more guilty. I now know that I need something more soft.

Eventually I went to see Henriette. It was quite confrontational at times but I feel much freer now, also in the contact with my wife. I have started to talk about things with her and I allow myself to meet another woman who enjoys making love with me. We both do not want to leave our partners but we do find something important in our connection.

It wasn’t easy for my wife but she is now happy for me. I still hope that she might open up one day, but I also realize now that this is her own process. I don’t feel guilty any more (well, just a little sometimes). I enjoy life much more as a whole, also in other areas. People close to me have commented that I look much happier and that touches me.

Male, 57

My deepest desires

From the very start, I felt completely at home with Henriette. Her openness and trust in my process enabled me to step into this adventure without any reservations. During the whole trajectory of 10 months I have always felt supported and appreciated.

The exploration consists of several steps and for each step there are exercises that were quite complex and intense and brought up a lot for me. Without the support and insights of Henriette I would not have managed very well. I often doubted myself and the results of my homework. Henriette was always able to put these doubts in the right perspective and guide me back to the right track. I would get in touch with my deepest desires again and also with what I do to block the realization of these desires.

A lot of those blocks have disappeared. I am quite content with what I have achieved. I also really liked the part where I found and formulated my Unique Risk: the Tender Warrior. I experienced Henriette as a loving woman who knows a lot about love, and she tirelessly gave it her all for me. I can recommend her wholeheartedly if you want to get to know your Unique Self or want to know more about love.

Henk Doedee